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Canine Autoimmune Hemolytic Anemia (AIHA & IMHA) - Thanks (Mitch)
| I just wanted to say thankyou to all those that responded to my last post regarding the loss of Mitch. I did read all the posts and thankyou all for your kind messages. It is now nearly 2 weeks since I lost Mitch and whilst it has not been easy I am in some ways glad I had 8 months to accept the reality and the graveness of the situation he was in. Although it was also an awful 8 months never knowing the way things may go it gave me time to prepare myself emotionally. I am moving on and I look forward to days with another litttle terrier although I am stuck reliving Mitchs last few minutes with me, I am not sure if this is normal and will pass though it repeats itself like a recording through my head. I don't really know why but each time I think of him it replays itself again. Has anyone else found themselves stuck in this replay? I feel I am moving on and yet I cant get this from my mind. I want to remember all the good times but each time the same thing runs through my mind... |
| Kath Scotland |
| Dear Kath, as you know, sadly i speak from experience. It is now almost 3 months since I lost Kahlu. It took a while for the good memories to take over the 'movie' of those last moments with him. Although I will never forget it, the fun, laughter and happy times are now clearly in the foreground. Thinking of getting a new dog is for sure a good thing! You had a long and very stressful 8 months. It will take time but it will happen eventually. I am sure this is an individual thing. For some people it takes longer, for some only a few weeks. Maybe it is better not to push those thoughts away? Just let them through your brain, acknowledge them and let them move away. One day they will float into the background of your memory, I am very sure. Best wishes, Brigitte |
| Brigitte BC Canada |
Dear Brigitte, Thankyou, I am sorry you are also going through this but what you have said has brought me a great sense of relief. I have lost pets before but have never had this continuing replay I have now. It just seems so odd when actually I am coping with his loss better than I expected (due to being prepared for it) and am already looking out for a new terrier to share my life with. The house is just so quiet and mischief free without a terrier. Despite having to much larger dogs Mitch was always the biggest presence! Thanks Kath |
| Kath Scotland |
| Dear Kath, What you are feeling is totally normal. I think we all "replay" those final moments. And I believe it is for that reason.....its hits us like a ton of bricks the "reality" of it . As time goes forward, you will realize that, although you cannot see or touch Mitch, his presence is and will always be with you. That never goes away. I have lost two dogs in the past two years and I grieved totally different for both my boys. My AIHA boy's passing hit me a lot harder than my boy I just lost in Jan. 2010. AIHA bonded us so deeply and a big part of my grief was that I felt "cheated" and I felt Jacob was "cheated".I do not think like that anymore. My Jacob survived AIHA for 6yrs. With my boy that I lost in January, he was extremely healthy throughout his 14 yrs until 6 months before he passed at the age of 14. Take time to grieve. It will get easier as time passes. Please remember, your boy loved you dearly just as you loved him. And he knew that you did the very best by him. Take care of yourself Kath! Teresa |
| Teresa va |
| Dear Kath,It is nearly five weeks since I lost my darling girl Holly and yesterday my new little girl Honey has come into my life,the sadness,emptiness and the overall loss of my dear darling girl was eating away at me daily.Coming into an empty home and the feeling of loss was taking me over. My baby girl will never be replaced but this 3 month old rescue puppy will ease the way. I will never forget her and I know she is with me daily,I want to send you all my love and to say that this journey of loss has many different directions and in your own time you will find yours. God Bless Dianex |
| diane luton |
| Kath, again I'm sorry for your loss. I hope that your heart heals with time and the addition of another little terrior will fill your life with joy and comfort. You deserve this. Mitch was extremely lucky to have you there for him and I'm sure he's meeting lots of wonderfull new friends where he is now while he waits for you. You've got my continued support and prayers. Hope everything works out for you and your quest for another terrior. Johnny & Tessy |
| Johnny |
| Kath, I think Teresa's post says it best. I too, even 3 years later go over and over my Salome's entire treatment wishing I could have changed the outcome. I have learned so much since then and hope never to have to put that knowledge to work on another of my dogs. I think part of the replay is you never understand why when you tried so hard it did not have a happy ending. I am just glad that your wee boy was with you at the end and you didn't have to get that awful call. The good happy memories do eventually overtake the painful ones and you will be able to smile at some silly memory of Mitch and that too will lead to more memories of all your good days. Take care Penny |
| Penny Lytle Creek Calif |
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