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Canine Autoimmune Hemolytic Anemia (AIHA & IMHA) - Bad day
| It has going better, but this week seems to be vey hard one. It has only been a little over a month, and I still can't believe Rosie is gone. I look at her pictures and feel so sad sometimes. I think that getting another puppy soon will help the healing. I feel I have alot of love to give another dog, but not to replace Rosie I know that, but is it too soon? Rosie, our schnoodle, was ony 6 yrs old, so many years ahead of her. I so wish she could have been one of the survivors. I want to post a picture of her,(but I don't know how here) and thank everyone here, this is a great site, especially when no one else really knows what we all go through to keep our babies alive, but in her case, it wasn't meant to be. That still is a little tough to swallow. |
| Heather |
| Dear Heather, Of course I don't now exactly how you feel, but believe me I have a pretty good idea. I lost my red poodle Kahlu at 3 1/2. I was also unsure if it would be right to get a puppy again so soon. Kahlu's breeder promised me to pick the perfect puppy for me from her next litter, just born a few weeks after Kahlu died. I had an other dog, same age as Kahlu that was grieving with me and I agreed to get the puppy. I have never regretted it! Enzo definitely has helped to ease the pain. Although related, the two dogs are totally different. Kahlu will always have a special spot in my heart and so will Enzo. I guess I have a spot for every dog in my heart:) I tried to turn all the negative into something positive. I do a little bit of fundraising for the Meisha's Hope Foundation and try to help people on this board. I tend to think that there was a reason Kahlu could not stay with me for longer than the 3 1/2 years. The whole ordeal has certainly taught me a lot. Of course it is very personal, but I don't think it is ever too soon to get a new puppy:) Best wishes, Brigitte & the poodle boys |
| Brigitte BC Canada |
| Heather, If you feel ready to get a new puppy/dog it is NOT too soon. When I lost my Maddie (not to AIHA/IMHA) a little over a year and a half ago, I thought I would not get another dog for a while, perhaps a month or so. But I was so lonely without a dog that two days after Maddie's death I went online to Petfinders and found a dog that I thought would be right for us. The next day we adopted her. No way will she ever replace my Meisha, Margo or Maddie. Each dog is differnet and fills a different spot in our hearts. My friend, Lanette, adopted another dog only a couple of days after the death of her Sampson. When we visited about adopting dogs soon after the death of one she said "We are DOG people and we need dogs on our lives!" What a true statement. I have no regrets for adopting so soon. Maggie is a weloome additon to our home and keeps us on our toes. We will NEVER ever forget our other dogs but they are not here for us now and there are so many dogs that need good loving homes that I consider it a joy to share my home and life with another. A loving heart can always make room for one more. |
| Joanne MN |
| Heather, I think you have answered your own question. You realize you have a lot of love for a dog and that is the reason you are thinking of getting another one not because you want to "replace" Rosie. That would be impossible because Rosie holds such a large part of your heart. We waited almost a year after we lost our dear Salome but that was only because of her sister (we didn't want to introduce another girl at that time). When we lost her sister Delilah to another rare disease we knew we had to have another girl in the family and went to the pound and got a very sweet girl who needed us as much as we needed her. I hope you will consider a rescue because i think saving a dog goes a long way in healing when you feel you were unable to save your AIHA dogs. You will know when it's right. There is no calendar for it. Take care Penny |
| Penny Lytle Creek Calif |
| Heather, Pretty much the 3 people who have written to you are 3 of the most compassionate, intelligent, and driven people I have ever come into contact with. I agree with all that they said. I personally couldn't adopt another dog (because I love the puppy stage- like 6 weeks old) because my son was so young when Macy died and it would have been total chaos. Now that he is walking and learning (capital L) to respect our other dog (Sugar Bear)/space in the home, etc...we are almost ready. I CANNOT wait and it has been over a year since we lost Macy. I don't believe my heart will ever truly heal from the loss but I think that it is the last step to honor Macy- to give to another pup like I gave to her and not let this stupid disease get the best of us. Just my opinion.....best wishes. -Darren |
| Darren |
| We lost Juliet two weeks ago. And as many know it was a heartbreaking couple of months over the holidays. We have been devastated and so sad, but have decided we needed another do in our lives. We have adopted a a border collie/sheltie/mix named Ross. He was a rescue from a kill shelter in Indiana via Virginia to New England. His name is Ross, 10 months, and 30 lbs of fun. He has lifted our spirits already. We will always have a special place in our hearts for Juliet and I still cry when I talk about her or look at her photos, but we felt it was too lonely here without a dog. My husband is retired and missed having a daily companion and the connection with the neighbors and other dog people that had become a big part of his life. We have saved a life, and he is saving ours, and we know Juliet will approve. Warm regards to All, Pat |
| Pat Vermont |
| I agree with everything that has been said. At first I said I would never adopt another dog after losing Lucky last week. It's been rough. I've just now stopped crying every half and hour. I miss him a lot. Then I thought about it. Lucky loved all dogs. He played and wrestled with any dog he ever met. He would want me to spread that love to other dogs.I'll never forget him and will always have a place for him in my heart. My Great Dane mix Megan misses having a buddy to play with also. I have been looking at the local kill shelters online. I found two black lab pups that I might get. I fell in love with their pictures. I might only be able to keep one and find a home for the other one. If you need me to host your picture of Rosie, I will. Send it to sweetemotion315@yahoo.com and I will post it in this thread for you. |
| Jerry |
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